Was divorce
part of God’s plan for marriage? Why do people ended up with failed
relationships due to their irreconcilable differences?
The genesis
of most marital issue is first traceable to the unsuitability of the parties
involved. That may not be seen at the initial stage of their relationship, but
as years go by, their unsuitability would suffice.
Relationship
failure, marriage breakage and broken engagements can be most times traced to
this issue of wrong partner.
God designed
marriage this way, a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his
wife (suitable help meet).
But when a boy leaves to cleave to a wife or a man
cleaves with a girl, you should expect this kind of relationship to be problem
bound.
That
everything seem blissful when two wrong persons marry or the right one marries
the wrong one, doesn’t mean it’ll end well, it’s only a matter of time when
you’d begin to notice the crack that would split up the union.
Why do some
people end up with the wrong partner when they know that there’s a suitable
partner somewhere?
The following points spells out the cause.
1.
Impatience
There’s time
for everything in life. When you do the right thing at the wrong time, you should
sure expect looming crisis in such matter.
Why would
you hurriedly get yourself into relationship when you’re truly not ready for
it? Why would you allow someone else timing set you up for a ‘quick’ marriage?
That you’re
of age doesn’t mean you are old enough to get married. Marriage doesn’t only
change status, it comes with responsibility and if you’re not ready to face the
huge responsibility, you’ll settle down for the wrong person. Remember, doing
the right thing at the wrong time makes it wrong.
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2.
Desperation
That all
your mates are getting married shouldn’t flame up the desperation of getting
married in you. Why will you be in haste to get married because your biological
clock is ticking fast?
Anything
done in desperation can’t end well. Take your time to prepare yourself for
marriage rather than allow being desperate push you into the wrong marriage
when you could have clearly seen well if you had waited some more.
It’s easier
to avoid the wrong partner before marriage than to find a solution for the
wrong partner in marriage. Don’t be desperate!
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3. Leaning
on your own understanding
Do you know
that marriage is first spiritual before physical? If you lean on your
understanding through the likes of dating, cohabiting or doing all sorts that exclude
God in your quest for a marital partner, you’ll end up with the wrong partner.
There are
some things that your education, exposure or experience cannot help you with in
life especially on the matter of whom to marry.
There’s no
how you would employ worldly gimmicks to find the right partner, its better you
depend on God so that you don’t end up with the wrong partner.
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4. Acting
under pressure
“Mom’s
telling me to bring a man”. “Dad’s asking me who’s she?” “Friends are asking me
who’s the lucky woman/man”.
No matter
how much of pressure may be mounted on you to get married, if you don’t get
some things in place, don’t think of marriage even if you seem to be of age
because you’d settle for the wrong partner.
Don’t rush
to marry if you haven’t developed yourself emotionally, spiritually,
financially and mentally to a point where you can live with a man or woman.
That
everybody is putting pressure on you doesn’t mean you should marry even if you
have an apartment, a good job or posh cars.
Do the right thing than to allow
people push you into the right thing when you’re not prepared for it.
Remember,
you can’t enjoy a hot tea when you’ve scalded your tongue!
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5. Lack of
divine guidance
Much issues
in most relationship would have been largely avoided if only most people do not
ignore the place of divine guidance in their decision making in life.
Marriage is
first spiritual before physical, you need God to guide you into knowing the
right partner.
That he or she appears to be all that you wanted in a spouse
doesn’t mean he or she is the right one for you.
Take time to
pray, wait and allow God to make things work out for you in His own timing. Let
God lead you into that relationship rather than allow impatience, pressure,
desperation or physical circumstances lead you in there.
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6. Family
trend
Do you know
that there are repetitive trend in many families? As it is with their first
generation, so is it with their second generation.
In some
families, they don’t get it right martially. Most of them usually end up with a
wrong spouse. It’s usually like mother, like daughter or like father, like son
syndrome.
If you ever
notice this kind of trend in your family, don’t panic, all that you must do is
to pray your way out of such evil trend lest it find its way in your own
relationship.
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7.
Third-party influence
You might be
privileged to marry the right partner, but if you allow a third-party influence
to affect your relationship, you’ll ruin the destiny of your relationship
hereby making you or your partner the wrong partner.
Don’t allow
parental influence or any form of external influence put your relationship
asunder. You must ensure you’re closely bonded with God because a three-fold
cord is not easily broken when God is involved in the union.
Conclusion
Are you at
the verge of making a marital decision? Don’t rush or be in haste. I know you
are running out of age. Don’t lean on your own understanding either and let God
guide you even if you know what you want. What you want might not be what He
wanted for your life.
If you can
get it right in the choice of the right partner, a larger percentage of your
problems in life have been solved provided you also make yourself the right
partner. Above all, let God guide you into marrying the right partner!
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